This morning I was perusing my book shelf looking for something to pass time during nap time this afternoon and I found a forgotten book tucked in the corner. Every day I walk by those shelves and glance at the familiar books begging to be opened, but this book never jumped out at me. It’s our 1001 Ways to be Romantic book and holy buckets was it dusty. I mean seriously, I don’t remember the last time we looked at this. While flipping through the pages I found my original note to Justin:
For those everyday moments when we need a little help. This is a little something to assist our ongoing love and affection for each other. I LOVE YOU HONEY! xoxo
We had been dating for a year and a half at that time and I was embarrassed to realize how little we looked at that book in the last ten years. Marriage and relationships is hard work ya’ll and not just because you have to live with a roommate who has different cleaning habits than you! To make a relationship last, grow and feel fulfilling you truly do have to work at it every day. Finding this book inspired me to write up a list of ways that we try to remind each other that we love each other. Some of these are still on our list of ideas to try while others are tried and true. And as I’ve mentioned before, we’re pretty frugal when it comes to spending money, so most of these ideas are free or inexpensive to test out. We’re not a hopeless romantic, rose petals on the bed, sweep me off my feet kind of couple and neither are these ideas. So you can do it. I know you can. Get out of your romance rut and just remember folks, it’s the little things that count.
- Surprise them at work with a coffee or energy drink.
- Do a chore that the other person would normally take care of.
- Order a small gift online. (Love me some Amazon! Just make sure they don’t receive the email or text alerts! Believe me.)
- Pray for them – let them know you did.
- No electronics night. Like keys in a bowl at a party – turn phones off and set them out of reach.
- Bubble bath with wine and music ready for them after a long day.
- Take the kids for an afternoon out of the house or offer to stay behind with them so the other can go out and relax.
- Have a cocktail waiting for them after work.
- Game night. Bust out some board games or grab a game remote.
- Write them a love letter – romantic or silly.
- Recreate your first date.
- Cook, serve, clean up their favorite meal.
- Cook a meal together!
- Forgive them and truly mean it.
- Fill the house with sticky notes of love. Write romantic ideas, sexy notes, song lyrics, silly notes, memories – whatever you can think of!
- Kiss an x-amount of times every day. Not just your good morning, good bye and good night kisses. Set a goal of 10+ or 30+ kisses a day depending on how mushy you already are.
- Say that you appreciate them and why.
- Reregister for your wedding and discover gift ideas if money was no object. Oh, and just to have a bit of fun.
- Create and play a dating game questionnaire.
- Plan and book a surprise getaway.
- Hold hands.
- Mail a love letter (envelope, stamp, mailman kind of mail).
- Take over kid duty in the morning or for the bedtime routine.
- Buy a new book or magazine and settle in for quiet time.
- Give a passionate kiss for no reason.
And if this list isn’t enough to get your creative juices flowing, you really should check out 1001 Ways to be Romantic. It’s got every idea imaginable! Make yourselves a list (I LOVE lists!) and start checking them off! Happy loving readers.