Call it the winter blues, cabin fever, or what have you, but I got to a point this winter where I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I was finding myself counting down the hours until it was bedtime, spending days inside (okay, not entirely my fault, it’s really cold here!), and just getting grumpy! So annoying! And I KNOW that my mood was transferable. When Mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy! I had had enough and knew that I needed to start working on myself. That’s when I started living my days intentionally both mentally and physically.
With the hubby away working long hours at his new job, the girls and I are missing him TERRIBLY. We’ve worked opposite shifts than each other pretty much for the last 10 years, but now that I’m home, it really hasn’t gotten much easier. This time, he knows that we’re all home together and days can go by before we catch a glimpse of his weary body rushing off to work. Instead of letting any negative emotions or thoughts to form about him being away I am intentional on how I talk to the girls about Daddy. I don’t grumble about missing him or having parent duty 24/7, instead I praise him throughout the day. And you know what? It’s catching on. Every night we pray for his strength and give thanks for his hard work and throughout the day I say that I love Daddy. The first long week was tough on them, but already they’re getting used to it and think of him being gone positively and will randomly say that they love Daddy very much. It’s just too cute. I challenge you to be intentional in what you say too and how you interact with your family. Don’t let the hours of your day tick by — share something uplifting and with purpose to those in your life. And don’t just just stop there, I couldn’t.
With my mind on it’s way to a more positive place, it was time to take on my sluggish body too! Now, I have never in my life been able to go on an actual “diet.” Because listen, I enjoy to munch, snack on chocolate and sip on wine. I’m such a cheater when it comes to being on a strict diet! What I have learned though recently is to eat intentionally. Do I need mayo on both sides of my sandwich (the answer seemed so obviously YES at first!), do I need chips and cheese while I scan through Pinterest before bed? Once I stopped to think about what I was feeding my body I realized so much of it was unnecessary and I started to fuel my body to carry myself with more confidence. And with that, I also learned about grace. So many times I would splurge on a burger basket and beer and feel like I defeated myself and give up on eating healthy. But it’s all about balance, making intentional choices and giving yourself grace. Now I can have a treat or a glass of wine and still hold my head up high that I’m on the right path. Coupled with exercise each afternoon, my body is now thanking me by increasing my energy level and overall mood and stress level. Fueling my body intentionally has been a game changer in my day.
For me, I also struggled with balancing my time both with the girls and in my mom-time. I had always been one for to-do lists, chores schedule and household inventory — but I don’t know what happened this winter! So now, I’ve been working on intentionally allotting my time throughout the day. This is the last piece of my intentional living so it’s still a work in progress. I’m trying to schedule my days out with chores, play-time and mom-time. How do you manage your day?
And here’s the thing, even though I don’t always have the house in order, even though the girls and I don’t always get along, even though I had a few splashes of wine and splurged at dinner, and even though my mom-time is often times wasted scrolling through Facebook or Pinterest, I’ve learned to give myselfGRACE! It’s okay if today didn’t go just as I had planned or scheduled for — tomorrow is a new, glorious, purpose-filled day. And I’m going to get after it.